Haven't we all heard those words at some point?
"GET A GRIP!" "WHY DON'T YOU JUST RELAX?" "CALM DOWN!"

Even though other's intentions may seem like simple advice they are trying to pass on, for most people these terms can increase if not perpetuate the emotion. Emotions can become very loud in our ears. It may start with something more mild like Irritation, who will then invite Anger, Frustration, and Sadness to come hang out. There is no "quick fix" to just STOP these feelings.
My first question to you would be "What is screaming loudest in your ear? What are you feeling the strongest?" Once it can be named, it can be deconstructed, like peeling the layers of an onion. You will start to see that you are skilled, competent, and have the ability to reduce these emotions/problems that want to take control of your life. You are the expert of your own life and as the therapist I'm here to help you find exceptions to these "problems". These problems are looked at as separate entities, and do not define you.
Not just therapy, but even conversations, are always most helpful when there is a collaboration. Don't forget, there is always HOPE!

Interested in therapy or support groups? Contact me for appointment information.

Heather Cotsenmoyer, MA, MFTI